Being on top

A merchant, a staunch pillar of society, wanted to protect his daughter from shame. When he realised she had become a ripe and succulent apple, ready for plucking, he took her aside one day and said, »My daughter, wicked and slippery are the ways of men in this world, and you must exercise the greatest care if you are not to bring disgrace on yourself and your family.«

Now that he had his daughter’s attention, he continued, »Men are after only one thing, are exceedingly devious, and will stop at nothing to fulfil their lustful desires. I want only to keep you from harm and disgrace. So listen carefully to what I am going to tell you, so you will know how to protect yourself when the time comes.

»At first a man will admire and praise your beauty and charms. Then he will flatter you, and invite you to spend time with him. The next thing is that he will walk you by his house, as if by chance, and remember he has something important inside that he needs to fetch. And of course he will invite you to come in while he looks for it. While you are waiting he will offer you a seat and, as if out of politeness, something to drink in order to refresh yourself. Now he sits down next to you, and you listen to music together. And when the moment is right, he makes his move. He forces himself on top of you, and in this way are you violated, you and your family shamed, and our reputation ruined.«

The daughter was much impressed by this forceful and passionate speech of her father. She took serious notice of it and resolved never to bring shame upon herself or her family. Some time later she approached her father with reverence. »Are you a magician?« she inquired. »Everything was just as you predicted. First he admired me, then he invited me out. Next the dear boy took me by his house from which he needed something from his bedside cupboard. Of course he invited me inside so I wouldn’t have to wait outside alone, and once inside his apartment he offered me a drink, just as you had said. Then we listened to some soothing, relaxing music. But all this time I remembered your words, and I knew exactly what was about to happen. So let me tell you how I am worthy to be your daughter. Just when I felt the right moment  coming and he was about to make his move, I forced myself on top of him, and in this way violated him, shamed him and his family, and ruined their reputation.«

Source: The Magic of Metaphor: 77 Stories for Teachers, Trainers & Thinkers by: Nick Owen, 2001

Lessons from this story:

  • Choice your worlds wisely.
  • When giving instructions be sure the person you give them to understands them, the way you understand them.
  • Do not let fear or reputation make you act stupid. Be true to yourself.

Are there any lessons I missed? Please let me know in the comment section.

Source of the featured image: The Pillar of Society

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